在壹個追求快的世界，“have faith in someone is a rare act, but it can be life-changing. Inside each of us is? a unique quality, a hidden talent .? I see something in you, I feel?something for you, and I know what it is! It is your? true potential! Cultivate it, and let it shine. ”
下次例會見到熟悉抑或陌生的人，妳會用新的眼光看他嗎？Maybe you will see? something? in them!
又是壹位令人尊重的全球主席- Robert “Bob” Barnhill, DTM , AS (1996-1997)。他是德克薩斯理工大學的法學博士並留校任教。1983年加入頭馬俱樂部，並在參與頭馬的過程中獲得了對教學與做導師的很大幫助。即使在他生病的時候，也沒有錯過頭馬的任何機會，他甚至和同為DTM的妻子Jana從德州開車到溫哥華參加國際峰會。
我們來看看他分享的精彩內容：
※ ?Each of us has a special? gift? to share with the world; however, most people fail to let their song be heard.
※? As mentors you open doors; it’s up to the? mentee? to walk through the door.（面條註意了~）
※? We must be tenacious in our quest to make? leadership? development as much a part of Toastmasters as communication training is today.
2013年采訪Robert時，他說自己最想被人銘記為“ a teacher of hope ”. “…gave me the ability to believe that tomorrow can be a better day, and not to quit, not to give up…and because of that, I have a? light .”
1. Want to be funny?
→ How do you learn “funny”? 喜劇技能和任何其他技能壹樣是可以練習和提高的。其實最平凡最日常的生活經歷中有很多可挖掘的點。做個有心人，多思考，多琢磨，多聯想，是時候拿個小本本記錄點滴了。（有沒有人想起美劇中了不起的麥瑟爾夫人啊）
→ Study the sources. 學習別人的幽默演講、喜劇表演等。將他們的笑點記下來反復斟酌，研習其結構。巧妙使用幽默能夠讓妳敏銳的看到壹些機會去shatter expectations and create surprise!
→ Learn the laughter triggers. 什麽能撥動人心理的笑點呢？用驚喜、尷尬、觀眾優越感、認同、失調、釋放。由於篇幅問題這裏只說明壹個，失調，incongruity。失調指的是把壹類東西的特點強加到另外壹類身上。比如讓動物說話~其他的大家看雜誌13頁吧~
→ Make them laugh and remember. 記住演講的主要目標還是deliver a memorable message clearly and effectively. 而幽默的作用就是找到那麽開心壹刻，順勢傳播妳的信息。
2.Ten tips for introducing your speech globally
如果有壹天妳不是在西安而是在世界其他角落，聽眾也不再是自己的同胞，而是有著不同文化習俗的外國人，我們演講前該註意些什麽呢？不同地方的人對成功的演講可能有著不同的看法哦~聽聽Dean Foster在全球100多個國家30多年的演講經驗總結：how can you get started on the right (cultural) foot?
10) Great beginnings depend on?what you?want to achieve.
妳的演講是inspirational, instructive, entertaining or providing cutting-edge information? 不同的目的意味運用不同的方法deliver.比如在德國做技術類演講，不宜使用太多fun facts, 因為德國人在職業專業領域向來嚴肅。
9) Show who you are from the start.?
不論是在偏好輕松隨意還是正式嚴肅的國家介紹自己，It’s important to review who you are with? humility .謙虛，即使為了建立權威性，也要表明是為了更好的服務觀眾。
8) Demonstrate your admiration of their culture. Endear yourself as an admirer of the country’s achievements.
7) Consider the language trap.
別以為別的國家聽眾英語水平都很好。說話時還是省略掉多音節詞和縮略語吧。聽眾聽不懂語言，演講的信息就無法傳遞。
6) Meet with your translator. 如果需要翻譯，提前與譯者溝通好，同聲翻譯最佳。
5)?Watch your nonverbal message.
上臺的前10秒大家已經對演講者有所評判了。手勢，笑容，面部表情，站位綜合體現了臺上的演講人會不會被臺下的觀眾接受。
4)?Your introduction also indicates the way you think.
有的文化喜歡有清晰邏輯，事實充分的講話；有的文化則偏愛結論再先，故事再後的結構。演講前要多了解這些差異。
3)?Master the technology.
圖片，演示文稿等技術道具要準備好。此外，展示的東西也要考慮聽眾文化中更習慣的方式。如東亞人更愛文字而不是字母來展示壹種概念。Also keep all the images culturally neutral, or at least culturallysensitive.
2) Have a game plan for cultural “damage control”.
萬壹說了壹些culturally offensive stuff, 承認自己無知犯的錯誤並感謝觀眾讓妳了解更多。
1) Be humble.
最後也是最重要的是 humility and gratitude. 觀眾不僅是在評判妳，也在評判妳的祖國和妳代表的壹切—從妳登臺的那壹刻起。
3. Create Culture of Candor-communication skills
誇獎的話語大家都很樂於聽，但是忠言逆耳利於行。那萬壹有IE坦白了妳的不足呢？怎麽鼓勵並優雅地接受candid individual feedback?本文的作者 Kelth Ferrazzl 可是2018年頭馬金錘獎（Golden Gavel）的獲得者鴨。
☆?Give clear permission? 確定妳的IE feel safe being candid with you?
☆?Watch your emotions 如果聽到unexpected feedback, try not to be defensive or upset
☆ Be generous and strive for greater connectedness 告訴IE為什麽看重他的坦誠的觀點。
☆?Say “thank you”. 不管是什麽樣的反饋，別忘了說謝謝。下次可以告訴TA自己如何有效地使用了TA的反饋。
☆?Make it a habit . It is a skill that few have the courage to practice, but it’s a crucial practice to master if you hope to?take ? advantage of valuable mentors in your life. Ture collaboration is impossible when people don’t trust one another to speak with candor . It takes work to create a candid environment supported by respectful, honest relationships, but it’s a challenge every leader should embrace.
1. Decluttering homes and lives
看到declutter這個詞，壹度改成了微信簽名，太貼切了，不就是斷舍離麽！清理掉雜亂的物品。專業人士走近顧客的家裏，就能根據她所看到的空間判斷這個人的問題所在。
A clear space acts as a powerful launch pad for every area of our lives. “First you need to gain? clarity? of what is in the space, then you can reflect on how these items? align with your vision? for the space and your daily life. ”怎樣成為自己時間和空間的主人？作者Missy
Sheehan給出了“十部曲”和“四階段”，感興趣的小夥伴請在原文發現吧。但願我們的演講和生活都變得well-organized.
2. How to disagree diplomatically?
工作中遇到不同意見？怎麽有效又不失優雅的表達不同意呢？Check it out.
□? depersonalize 把問題和人分開對待。在工作上有分歧時，要理解：和妳持不同意見的人不是對手，只是同事。Depersonalizing a decision can enable you to? remove the “win”? from the equation and? enjoy the exchange? of ideas.
□ acknowledge and add. 話術：說“I hadn’t thought of that. What I was thinking was…”,避免說“yes, but…”
□? use “I agree” cautiously . 如果壹開始就說“I agree”，對方根本就不聽後面的but了哈哈。把“I agree”放在中間。例如可以這樣：“On the point you just made, I’m in complete agreement. On this point my perspective is…”。Your opinions are best delivered in a way that make people? feel constructive, not judgmental.
令人感動的會員故事，令人激動的會員成就，令人頓悟的演講技巧。開卷有益，歡迎分享妳的感悟。
https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine
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“READ and SHARE Toastmaster Magazine”是19-20年度D88大區的LEAD (Leadership Experience for Advanced Development)項目之壹。本活動旨在通過閱讀和分享頭馬雜誌內容，更加了解頭馬國際發展、認識全球優秀頭馬夥伴，學習演講和領導力，達到更好的個人成長並宣傳頭馬帶來的好處。
歡迎關註，壹起 Read and Share ，留下妳的Comments吧~
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Karen QUAN, IP2
VPE of Xi'an Hi-Tech TMC (19.7-20.6)